In response to the Daily Post: Not for Thee, the advice that immediately comes to mind is romantic advice.
Let me start by saying that I’m happily (mostly) single and have been for about half of my adult life. The other half I spent in a multitude of short relationships. I honestly don’t know why I haven’t met and settled down with a mate. I’ve had ideas about the why’s and wherefor’s, but in the end I don’t know. Sometimes it’s me, sometime’s it’s him, sometimes it’s mutual. The reasons at the time vary. And the overall reason is a mystery.
Nevertheless, everyone I know, often people I meet, and especially my mother has advice.
“You should smile more!” (from my teen years)
“You have to really want it.”
“You have to not want it.”
“You have to be specific about who you’re looking for.”
“You’re too busy for anyone to fit into your life.”
“You need to do more.”
“You just haven’t met the right one yet.”
“You’re too picky.”
“You’re not picky enough.”
I could go on, but surely you see the pattern. It’s like having a common cold – everyone has a cure, just not the same one. Such contradictory advice would make me crazy if I were planning on following them all.
Luckily being single is much more fun than having a cold.
On a recent visit to my mother, the conversation went a bit like this:
She: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No, Mom, I’m still single.
She: Is there anyone on the horizon? Anyone you like?
Me: No, Mom.
(I try to change the subject.)
Me: Hey Mom, I’m going to Portugal in April.
She: That’s wonderful! Are you going with anyone?
Me: No, Mom, I’m going alone.
She: Well maybe you’ll meet someone there.
(See where this is going? I try another change.)
Me: Hey, Mom, I’ve got a website, see? I’ve started blogging.
She: Wow. Will you meet someone with your blog?
I give up.